What Are Your Views In Having A Relationship With A Guy Twice Your Age?

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Ryanna Brown Profile
Ryanna Brown answered
Nothing wrong with dating older guys... I have dated guys way older than me in the past and a couple younger... My mom is married to a guy who is 20 years older than her and they have been together 13 years... No one can say what will work for you just take it slow and see where it goes...
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tinga nih
tinga nih commented
Thats a relief!!! Well, they say if you love that person.. And if your happy.. To hell with everyone!!! Ahahaha thanks!!!!
Joan Profile
Joan answered
Tinga, I agree with what everyone else has said. If you are an adult, and you & your friend can handle the looks and comments, it is nobodies business but the 2 of you. But, if you are thinking marriage and a life long relationship, there is one thing that you need to think about with such a large age difference. When your true love is 80 and is barely able to get from bed to bathroom and back to the lounge chair; you will be 40 and in good health and fully capable of going dancing and traveling. Will you be happy at home changing his diaper? I know it is not a pretty picture but it is a truth you need to think about. If you love this man that much then nobody should stand in your way. I wish you happiness but before you go too far with this relationship, consider the long term consequences. If you are willing to take on his old age care.....you go girl!
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Well myself I would feel a little weird having a relationship with someone twice as old as me.But if you feel comfortable dating older men and don't mind other peoples comments or judgements about why your with him then I say to each his own.We need to change the way we see things like why does it seem ok for an older woman to be with a younger man but not an older man with a younger woman as long as they are not causing any harm to one another then it shouldnt be a major issue.I guess it just depends on the ages of the individuals meaning male or female teenagers should most definitely not engage in that type of  relationship that is not healthy and there maturity level is in no way ready for that type of situation.Someone in there 20's should be a little more smarter and mature to understand the consequences.hope that helps stressed21
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tinga nih
tinga nih commented
Yeah im just really worried of peoples judgement.. Sigh* but to hell with them.. Its mah happiness.. Thanks!
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I would worry about your ability to be happy with that person, and their ability to be happy with you. With age comes experience and with experience comes maturity. Within a certain limit- for most people, I'd say cap that limit at about 10 years- it can be dealt with, but it's very difficult.

and I know this doesn't sound nice, but the simple fact is that for older guys going after younger women, especially women under the age of say, 25-26, they aren't interested in anything so much as a hot young piece of @ss. Trust me on this one, I live in a country where the guys who can't get it there come to find it.
Quentin Sasq Profile
Quentin Sasq answered
I think that the older you are the less of a difference it makes. An older person will probably have difficulties mixing with an 18-21 year olds group of friends, just because of the levels of maturity. There is probably only a two year difference either way between my close friends. I can't imagine myself with anyone double my age, maybe ten maximum. But generally, I believe that if you have enough things in common and like each other then nothing should stop you from being together. I have the seem feelings about race as well.
Alma Holmes Profile
Alma Holmes answered
Well I don't think its a good idea because your age difference brings about different interest and most men when they are that much older they seem to dictate rather than appreciate they are more experience so they want to tell you what to do rather than ask your opinion and then if it get real serious though we don't realize it at the time you don't grow together and the younger person had the burden of taking care of this person because they bodies begin to age and with age come loss of hearing seeing and then where does all that excitement goes still with the younger person but there is no one to hang out with anymore but someone to take care of. But thats only one way of looking at it.
John Profile
John answered
I believe if you are of adult age over 25 years of age and you have lived your life and found someone of this age and then marry them ....then there is nothing wrong..you don't say what kind of relationship,friends,mentorship,or as in a biblical relationship....usually this type of relationship though usually fails because one or both parties can/or are not capable of actually communicating/understanding the age difference and what it really means...in the long run...
nettie Profile
nettie answered
There is nothing wrong with it if you are certain you and he can handle it,right now you think you can but the age difference has its good and bad sides,for instance when he is a senior and will not want to have sex and you are still at the age that you still enjoy a good romp in the hay, what to do, so for me could not would not because I would weigh all options and when that time came I would most certainally get him some help in that department,but than that is me, and that is a part of my relationship.....the best to you
Sarina Afiat Profile
Sarina Afiat answered
Ryt now I'm friend with a boy whose twice my age and I don't think that there would be a problem , but sometimes I feel that if he were closer to my age I would feel better.
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tinga nih
tinga nih commented
Being just friends for me has no age limit.. The relationship i was referring to is about more than friends.. Something like marriage or dating.. =) but thanks for the answer...
V D Profile
V D answered
Tinga, My sister married a man 20 years older than her. For the first ten years it did not seem to matter at all. But by the time he was 50ish he was ready to stay home weekends and evenings (almost all the time) And she was beautiful and fun loving and loved to dance. She never got to do that anymore at 30 years old. Gosh I was still loving all of that in my 50's (still do) But I married a younger man. When her husband retired at 62 she had to keep working another 20 years to help support three children and a husband. He died when she was 55. She has never remarried. She has really has an extremely lonely life because of that age difference. Date him. Have fun for a while. DO NOT SETTLE DOWN with an OLDER MAN. My daughters man is 15 years younger than her because she saw how young it keeps me being married to a younger man. I try to dress younger, stay slim and keep my make-up current. Etc. It is easy to let yourself get older looking after you have been with an older man for 15 or more years trust me on that.
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tinga nih
tinga nih commented
I appreciate that a lot... It made me realize more of the sacrifices i would make.. But i guess i wont be doing that anymore.. Haha his gone.. Well, i hope there is no more mr. Twice my age will come along.. Hahaha il put a sign on my heart and brain!! Ahaha
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I am with a guy right now who is 56 and I am 36. We have been together for 3 years and we have everything in common. In fact, I can't keep up with him, which ids why he has always been with younger women. Also, he looks about 15 years younger than his age. I would say in most cases, yes, a 20 yr age gap does matter, but in my case it works, but id rare. Also, he a kid and I have kids and got my tubes tied so we know where we stand. Look at Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta Jones. They have 2 kids together.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
To take care me with his money
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tinga nih
tinga nih commented
That can be rude.. But most people do think of it that way... Tsk tsk even me.. Tsk tsk.. But there can always be love.. I geuss..hope..
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Karl Sagan answered

In my opinion, if we take into account the big age difference between partners, then such relationships should be built at least on the high income of both, because otherwise the younger partner will still go left, so to speak, as a result of dissatisfaction with the relationship in bed. In this case, it is best to use random hook up local, so that you can choose a partner that suits you and have absolutely no obligations to him.

Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Well if you are 15 yrs. And he is 30 yrs. Then he is a pedophile and should be incarcerated. If you are 30 yrs. And he is 60 yrs then by all means enjoy each other
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tinga nih
tinga nih commented
Im 22 and his 40.. You think thats ok???
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Anonymous commented
You're 22 and he is 40 ENJOY!!
tinga nih
tinga nih commented
He stop communicating.. Idk.. But life has to move on.. His loss.. I was damn serious..
mike h Profile
mike h answered
If that happens then that person has no selfrespect for themselves. They never seem to work out anyway. My x was 40 and I am 26. I don't know if I regret it or miss it but we were not a match...

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